I am quite shy and introvert by nature (since childhood) and every one keeps on telling me that it is a weakness. Not even my parents are supportive and keep on nagging me and comparing me with my elder brother who is an extrovert and likeable by all. I don't feel like talking to anyone anymore, nor laughing. I feel very lonely all the time. It seems that i am turning into a misanthrope as i feel that i hate everyone. Due to this my academics is also suffering and for the past few years i have not performed well. But by God's grace i have been given another chance. I have been granted admission for MSc in International Management in France from a reputed institute. People keep on saying to me that "how will u be able to perform in this field since u don't speak a word"." U won't be able to survive there".There is no one who can motivate me but only pass negative comments. But i don't want to give up and prove others wrong for being so negative about me.What should I do ?
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Dare to dream and make your dreams come true. Figure out what is important to YOU, not them, and then go for it. It is YOUR life to live, not anyone elses, so go live it and ignore them. SHOW them you can do it. good luck!
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actually everyone have their own potential..try to find the best and god then will help you...nothing is impossible man,but it'll never be possible once you take it negatively...try to find somepne to talk to..
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You can motivate yourself by ignoring everyone else's demotivating comments. If people have nothing better to say then keep pushing you down, who needs them. Isn't the phrase, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all? Be yourself, that's the best. You've been granted admission for a reputed institute, more power and credit to you! Good luck with that as well! don't let people push you down, find people that will support you, even if your shy and introverted, find some nice friends, by even just smiling to someone if they look at you. Just that, a simple smile and they'll smile back, that's one great way to make yourself feel better. Good luck hun, just hold out and use your will to not give up and prove others wrong as motivation to keep going.
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hullo it seems that you are fully in-sighted about your problem, i would rather call it social phobia, it is a condition that grew from childhood and reinforced by outer environment (family, friends). you have a great chance in overcome it, go to France and earn your degree and prove that you are up to it. Dr solo
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I think you have social phobia too, as another answerer stated on here. I had that problem too, and still do, a bit, but I really worked like hell to deal with that, because I was miserable being so shy. I was so shy that teachers thought I was mentally retarded for a long time, and I am one of the exceptionally gifted, actually. So here is what i did: took theatre in junior high/middle school, debated and did extemporaneous speaking (off the cuff speaking regarding current events) in high school, lectored at my church, then coached debate, ran a large club, and then was a TA when I was in graduate school. I was absolutely terrified the whole time, got physically sick the whole time, it was so horrible!! But NOW that I am 42, no one can tell how shy I am. I am a very very effective speaker in interpersonal communications, and could get up and public speak if I had to, and be good at it. so what may help you, is start small. Take an interpersonal communications class at university, maybe take a few. If you have to fake it, so what?? It will help you in your life. But I do think you have social phobia, and you sound like you have depression, too. Anyone who isn't getting social support is going to tend to get depressed, because humans are highly social animals. If you have hobby interests that you are into, that is a great way to visit with people, because you can talk about photography, or aquariums (that's what my club was about) or birdwatching, or computers, ham radio, whatever. There is much less pressure on you, because you automatically have something to talk about. And most of those people will be introverts too, trust me. You will have to be tough for the first 3 or 4 meetings, then you will know some people. Good luck, you will have to find a way to deal with this because you will be so sad all your life if you don't. I really feel for you. Your parents love you and are taking the wrong approach with you. They know that you will be sad and they want you to have a happy life. Parents screw up too, and you are a sensitive sort, so it's easy for them to goof. Finally, there are meds for social anxiety, if it gets to that. I personally would say go for this career if that is what you want, but for you it will be harder than others. Getting into a new environment may make things a lot better, or could be worse, no way to know. All the best to you, I hope some of this advice/info will help you.
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